Are Your Fears Getting the Better of You?

By Tracy Gowler 5 years ago
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Happy October.  Well ok, I’m a little early but I just can’t help myself.  I love October for so many reasons but there are also things I don’t love.  I hate scary movies.  Hate, hate, hate them.  That is a lot of hates.  I get so scared, ridiculously scared watching them and then I can’t let it go.  Might not help that Carrie was the first scary movie I saw and my second was the Omen. Scarred me for life.  But it doesn’t take scary movies to instigate fears does it.  Nope.  Fears come from all kinds of places but the fears I want to talk about are the ones keeping you from stepping out onto the path from sickness to health.  And, I don’t know any other way to talk about it than to just be direct and honest.

Let’s start with the easy ones and gradually get to the tough ones.

What if I can’t afford the program?

There is usually a lot of fear standing behind this word for good reason.  Most programs to walk you through the process of taking your health back are upwards of $4000 or more.  That is a lot to stomach and commit to and to explain away.  And when it comes to money, there are usually other fears in the background hiding behind this fear.  Some of them listed below.  But for now, let’s just address the money commitment.

If you were to add up the amount of money you have spent in the medical community meeting with a variety of doctors, running tests, taking medications that didn’t work.  How much has that cost you?

How much work have you missed because of feeling sick?  How much money have you lost because of being sick.?

How many medical procedures have you had for symptoms that you might not have considered related but very likely are?

Do you think you might have spent at least as much as a $4000 program?  Maybe more?

I know I did.  Way more.  I’ve had surgeries.  I’ve paid for stress tests and heart monitors 3 times.  I’ve had emergency room visits for weird chest pains, for weird cramping that lasted for days so I was unable to walk, for weird swollen joints, for weird hives and rashes, whole body yeast infections, dangerously low hemoglobin, UTI’s that won’t quit, etc, etc, etc.  And that doesn’t account for all of the testing.  Nor the random visits with the doctors to discuss what the hell is going on.

I have paid incredible amounts of money to get nowhere and I know you have too.

When I arrived at my No More and changed my approach to my health, I did have to spend money, yes. But the difference was that once I change the approach, I started making progress.  I was getting a return on my investment in myself and that is the way I look at it.  It is a big investment, but I am getting returns.

So, it really isn’t that you aren’t willing to spend the money is it.  Because you’ve been spending it for years.

Let’s explore some of the other fears and see if they might be behind the money concerns.

What if I can’t find the energy to make the changes?

This is a big one because most of the time you aren’t really sure how you are going to get through the day.  And a lot of times, you haven’t yet discovered how you got yourself in this position.  Sadly, you are very a giving person as a woman.  Most of us are.  You put yourself last, ignoring things that are going wrong as you try to do for everyone else until we can’t anymore.  And even then, you are still trying to do that instead of looking after yourself.

I think the fear here is the fear of standing up for what you need because many of us haven’t done that before.  And who is going to do it if we can’t.

The reality is as you get sicker and sicker, it will get to the point that you won’t be able to provide for your family in the way that you always have.  They will have to begin providing for you and picking up the pieces where you will fall short.

Energy comes from reprioritizing, but you must be willing to do that.  It might be a difficult family conversation, but it is possible.  And you don’t have to tackle it all at once.  It’s ok to move at a pace you can handle to get started while your body starts the healing process.  As you begin to feel better, you can pick up the pace.

What if it is too hard?

Another big fear but I think it is because you have been living as you are for a while, you know the difficulty.  You don’t really have an idea of what it is going to take to get better, so it is easy to imagine something terribly challenging.  The fear of the unknown will get you every time.

Here is something I tell my clients.  The way you are living now is hard.  Very hard but what you don’t realize is that there is no light at the end of the tunnel.  It will only get worse and eventually you will develop additional autoimmune diseases.  And one more little fact. Autoimmune takes 15-20 years off your life.  Yep, it isn’t pretty.  And your quality of life sucks as it is.  Can you imagine living the rest of your life like this with no light at the end of the tunnel

So I say, choose your hard.  Because living like that is so hard.  And yes, getting healthy is hard but there is light at the end of the tunnel.  And in that light, you will find yourself, you will take your life back. You won’t believe how you could have even existed as you are ever because it become unfathomable.  So, choose you, choose your health, take your life back and make it the best life ever!

What if it doesn’t work?

I get it.  You just spent all this money and what if you still feel like shit.  I understand.

Well, you aren’t alone in this.  They suspect the number of people with autoimmune is well over 100M.  People are healing.  The people at the top of the food chain in functional medicine industry all same the same thing when it comes to healing.  It isn’t a mystery.  The healing process for autoimmune is all the same.  Heal the leaky gut, improve diet, turn down the inflammation, support what needs supporting and eliminate the triggers.

What makes you different might be your triggers, but they can be tested for.  Once you know you can easily eliminate them.

If you commit and provide what your body needs, the body heals.

What if my spouse or significant other doesn’t support me?

Well now, that is a big one.

Here is what I have to say.  If they love you, wouldn’t they want you to get better and support you in that process, or at the very least, allow you to make your life easier.

Beyond that I can’t help.  You must value you yourself and your health more than the need to please.  A big decision for you maybe.

My biggest fears went away the moment that I decided No More.  In that moment I wanted control of my life more than I was willing to worry about the What If’s.  If you aren’t there yet, you might need some more time to consider what you are waiting for.

If you are there, I would love to chat with you about the possibilities.

Email me and let’s set up a time to chat.

Have a fabulous week.  Chat soon!!!

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