This month for me has been one that I wanted to have you think about yourself a little differently and head into the new year with a new perspective on not just your health, but your life. I’ve saved this one for this week because our focus during the Holidays is really on everyone else. It truly is time for you to Be the Queen of your own story.
I say it over and over again that we women are terrible about making ourselves a priority. Don’t get me wrong, I know women that are very selfish but that is not the majority. Most of us are on the back burner of our lives. Everyone else comes first.
And I think it is a hard thing for us to take ourselves off that back burner. We feel guilty. We have been brought up thinking that it is our duty to look after everyone else first. And we are good at it. We are nurturers. But the reality is that we can’t do it to the fullest potential if we aren’t looking after ourselves first.
How many of you can honestly stand up and say that you look after yourself first?
I know, a large percentage of you can’t. I talk about it and I can still struggle with it. I have had to fight to be the Queen of my own life. Not just to highlight to others what I need for me but with myself.
Let me give you some personal examples.
I’m Type A and stress is at the root of my health issues. I have spent time at the Chopra center learning to meditate. I have spent time with the amazing Travis Rumsey learning TRE (Trauma and Tension Release Therapy). I have bought a little sauna to help relieve stress and detox. I know breathing techniques. Etc, etc.
Do I use them regularly?
Sadly, No. I use them in spurts when I reach a point of being overwhelmed and my body is starting to scream at me.
Why do I wait for the screams? Honestly, because I have so many things going on that I would rather lay in bed for the last 20 min of sleep than to get out of bed to meditate. I would rather pick up some food, although not crappy food, but not as good as homemade because I am not scheduling time in to make it for myself. I would rather work in my business and layout my next steps than work on myself. I would rather respond to a call from a client than to finish the work I need for me.
That has changed for me in the last couple of weeks. I am not sure that it was truly an Aha or if it is just the progression of my health journey and now is the time for me to tackle this part of my healing. The biggest part for me really. And I know this. And I know it is the same for many women. And it is the reason that I don’t start here with my clients.
I start with diet.
Also, hard. But much easier to tackle than Being the Queen of our own stories, isn’t it? Yes.
Maybe you aren’t yet ready to redefine your importance.
It hurts a little when you think about it that way doesn’t it? Ya, it does. And if you aren’t ready yet, that is ok because if you force it, it will be a waste of time. I have wasted a lot of time trying to convince myself that I’m worth it and that I need to be a priority. Sadly, it has taken me a long time to get here.
I had a woman a couple of weeks ago look at me and say Be the Queen of your own story. I’m here now and I am the Queen of my own story.
I am now living what I talk about with my clients.
Crazy that it was such a hard road here and it might be for you as well. I have talked and talked about the results of not making ourselves a priority. I don’t need to highlight that here again today. What I hope for you as the year draws to a close is that you will consider my words. Consider making yourself the Queen of Your Own Story. Just Be the Queen.